The Courage to Confront Your Wounds
Daron delves into the transformative journey of navigating pain and achieving freedom in life. Through the “Rogue Way” approach, he explores the importance of forgiveness, repentance, and overcoming past strongholds to reclaim lost parts of oneself. He also discusses the challenges of confronting personal demons and the rewarding process of turning pain into passion. Drawing inspiration from thought leaders like Richard Rohr and Phil Stutz, Daron encourages listeners to pursue a destiny marked by freedom and flourishing, emphasizing the ongoing nature of life’s challenges and the power of self-redemption.
Real freedom comes from confronting pain and reclaiming what’s been lost. Are you ready to take the leap toward healing?
Key Takeaways:
- ⚡️Addressing unresolved pain is essential to achieving personal freedom and stepping into your destiny.
- ⚡️The Rogue Collective offers a structured pathway for rogue leaders to make a profound impact on their communities.
- ⚡️Transforming your pain is crucial; otherwise, it might be transmitted to others, perpetuating cycles of suffering.
- ⚡️Embracing forgiveness and redemption can ultimately free individuals from the strongholds of their past.
- ⚡️Living a life filled with purpose and vitality requires continuous effort and confronting challenges head-on.
Notable Quotes:
- “If we do not transform our pain, we will always transmit it. Someone else always suffers because we don’t know how to suffer our own wounds.”
- “You were created to step into your destiny… to experience great joy in life.”
- “Everything that’s worth anything in life is always an uphill grind.”
- “How can you flourish in life… if you’re not free?”
- “It’s usually a method, there’s usually a process to it, and it’s always worth it.”
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The hard work that we help you do when you walk the Rogue way is actually begin to courageously step into forgiveness, to step into repentance, to step into freedom, and actually begin to reclaim that which has been lost in your life. And this is hard work and that’s why so many people don’t do it. But you can create it on purpose and for a purpose. Hey, welcome back to the Daron Earlewine Podcast.
So thankful that you have downloaded this episode. I appreciate it. This podcast community is so fun to be a part of and it’s so, so cool to hear from you what you’re learning, questions that you have, and always send them my way. You can always email me daron@daronearlewine.com, you can text me 317-550-5070. You can always reach out through DM on all of the socials. We’re out there and we’re walking through the rogue way.
As we’ve talked about over this past year, we’ve launched a new venture called the Rogue Collective, which is a speaking, coaching and consulting company that is really doing our best to gather together rogue leaders and inspire them to create the future one awakened life at a time. And the process that we’re working to do that is we want to awaken the masses. We’re doing that through speaking, doing a lot of speaking at companies, conferences, stuff like that, churches even, and still.
And we want to equip the few. This process is not for everyone, and that’s okay. We want to find the rogue leaders that God has in some ways directed towards us or people that feel drawn to us. We want to equip them and to become what they were born to be. And then we want to empower them to step out and to, to disciple and to equip and to empower many, many, many people that we may never touch and may never know who we are or who I am.
But your life will impact them in amazing, eternal and transcendent ways. And so as we’re walking through what we call the Rogue Way, which is the kind of operating system of one of the operating systems, if you will, that are part of the Rogue Collective, we’ve walked through the understanding of the four transcendent threads that run through everything that we do. And now we’re looking at what we call the four Noble Quests.
So we looked at the idea of destiny, and now we’re going to walk through the idea of freedom. And freedom is interesting and I think kind of unique in some of the work that we do because we have Another four month process that we call the four core questions. I told you, everything’s forced. The four core questions. And a lot of the ins and outs of that training look a lot like the spiritual DNA course that we’ve taught for 15, 20 years now, however long it is.
And in that, we do help you discover the strengths that you have, the unique abilities, the stuff that you do really well. And a lot of personal development is structured around that. We’re going to have you really find your strengths, we’re going to have you focus in on what you do really, really well so you can do it even better and make a great difference. And that’s wonderful. And I’m all for that. And we help you do that and have helped you do that for years.
Here’s one of the things that I’ve come to realize, though, is that if we don’t know how to live in freedom, we greatly inhibit our ability to actually use those gifts and abilities. If we’re held captive by certain things or held captive by anything, it’s really difficult to make a full step into our destiny because so much of our life is held back in our past. Does that make sense? And what I found in my own life and in a lot of people’s lives is we don’t live with a lot of freedom because it’s freaking hard to do.
Because to live in freedom, we actually have to go through the gut wrenching, terrifying process of healing and being redeemed and being set free from that which holds us captive. And that usually has a lot to do with pain inside. That pain is shame is regret is a lot of the emotions and a lot of the realities of our life that we do our best to not have to deal with. I feel like a lot of shame and a lot of pain for some things. I’ve done a lot of regret in my past. And when I start feeling, you know what I just want to do? I just want to go shopping.
Because when I shop, I get a hit of dopamine in my brain and for that moment, right, I can have some more possessions and I don’t have to deal with the pain of my life. And so I’m just going to shop my way into freedom. And then the credit card comes and you go, you know what I think I did? I think I shot myself into greater captivity because now I still have the pain and the regret and the shame. I do have a good new Louis Vuitton bag, but now I have debt on top of all that. And I don’t Feel very free.
I know what I’ll do when I have the pain and the shame and the regret of what’s happened to me in my past, of the reason that I still hate. Fill in the blank, person. When I feel that instead of doing the difficult, tough, courageous work of being healed and finding freedom from that, I’m going to drink myself numb because then I have to think about it or drink, consume, take, smoke, shoot, whatever it is. I’m going to check out of this pain so I can feel free.
Many of us have been experts of that. And then you wake up the next morning and you go, I made some regrettable decisions last night, and my head feels like someone is bashing it with a baseball bat. I don’t feel very free. I don’t feel very happy. I just feel like I’m captive to this cycle that won’t end. And we can fill in the blank with a lot of different things that are not a part of the noble quest that we’re on, that we do to deal with the pain of the strongholds and of the things that hold us, maybe even the prisons that hold us captive to our past.
The hard work that we help you do when you walk the rogue way is actually begin to courageously step into forgiveness, to step into repentance, to step into freedom and actually begin to reclaim that which has been lost in your life. And this is hard work, and that’s why so many people don’t do it. But you can. Richard Rohr, I love this quote. This is sobering, but yet, I think, hopeful. He says it like this.
If we do not transform our pain, we will always transmit it. Someone else always suffers because we don’t know how to suffer our own wounds. Is it. I can get the sobering part? Yeah. If we don’t transform our pain, someone we transmit it. That’s sobering, right? Someone else has to suffer for the pain that I won’t deal with. What’s the hope there? Well, the hope there is that if we can learn on how to suffer our own wounds, and if there’s actually someone that can help us forgive, if there’s actually someone that can help us repent, seek forgiveness, if there’s someone who is an expert in redeeming pain, it means that the pain that I’m suffering can actually not be transmitted to the next generation, but that I might be able to be a conduit of love, of forgiveness and freedom to everyone in my life. That is a hopeful reality.
And what we want to help you walk through, you Say, Daron, that’s gonna be hard. It’s gonna be really hard. Yeah, it is. It’s gonna be really hard, but it’s worth it. Psychologist Phil Stutz, right? He works with a bunch of, you know, a list, big celebrity people in LA and whatever, and does a lot of good work for people. He says it like this. You’re never going to be exonerated. You’re never going to get to the place where you don’t have challenges.
That’s true. You said, I love what you’ve been talking about. I want to live in my destiny. I want hope, I want to live a noble life. Like this is what I want. This is the kind of stuff I want. I agree. And I think you were created for. Because you were created to step into your destiny. You were created to live in freedom. You were created to experience great joy in life. But here’s the issue is you’re never going to get to the place in your life where you don’t have great challenges.
You’re never going to be exonerated from that. Everything, this is what I’ve experienced in my own life, that everything that’s worth anything in life is always an uphill grind. It’s always uphill, it’s always a challenge. Doesn’t mean that it’s not worth it. It just means this is difficult. And every time you put your life in neutral and go, I don’t want to do hard things because I’m tired. I don’t want to do hard things because fill in the blank, whatever it is, it doesn’t take long before you start realizing that you’re rolling back downhill.
Here’s the good news is God’s for you. He’s not against you and he’s near you, not far from you, and he wants to actually allow you to live in the flow of his spirit. So you can do what? Brian Johnson, right, the great author of the book Arete, motivational coach. He says it like this. You are a hero battling the dragons that inevitably show up on all our quests, striving to do so with more wisdom and more discipline and more love, encourage and gratitude and more hope and more curiosity and zest. In a word, arete, which is this ancient Greek word that means flourishing, right, or vitality in your life.
And this is a tough, tough section of the. Of the rogue way. But, man, it’s worth it. Because there are certain things right now that are holding you back. You might even call them strongholds that have roots in the pain of your past, that are Keeping you from living in the freedom of your future. The good news is that you do have the ability, with God’s help, to step into those, to find healing from those, and to be free.
To be free. Like, how can you flourish in life? How can you experience the power and the joy of your destiny if you’re not free? And this is not usually instantaneous and it’s not usually magic. It usually takes time. And there’s usually a method. There’s usually a process to it, and it’s always worth it. And we want to help you take those steps in that process. We take you through what, What. Once again, Dave Gibbons taught me this. This idea of this.
The pain will, if you will, and the pain will. It takes you from a place where we all have pain. But the question is this. Can pain grow from something that I bury and I hide from to something that I can actually possess and see it as a present or a gift to my life so it can be transformed to passion in my life? A present into passion. Here’s the process that goes with that. We all have pain, right? And most of us bury it.
I’m going to bury it and I’m going to cope with it, like I said before, through possessions, through popularity, through checking out. Right. Through consumption. There’s some way that I’m trying to bury the pain of my life. But what if this. What if we had come to the place where we could profess it? Meaning I’m going to actually give voice. This is real. This is in my life. And people have said. I don’t know who’s all said it. I’ve said it before, but we’re usually only as sick as our secrets.
There’s great power to move in your freedom when you begin to possess. Are you going to profess, I mean, the pain that you have, this is real. Doesn’t define me. But it’s here in my life. I’m not going to bury it anymore. I’m going to profess it. The next point is that you actually possess it. Like I’m going to possess this. This is something that. Yeah, you know what? I’m professing it. It’s here, and I’m not going to hide from it. I’m going to actually embrace that this is part of my journey. But it doesn’t have to define me.
And once I actually allow myself to possess it, right. It begins to. To deconstruct the shame and the power that it has over me so that I can begin to see it as a present. You Say, Daron, you don’t know about the pain that I’ve been through. No, you don’t. I know the pain that I’ve been through and it was not an easy journey to actually go, you know what? I can receive this as a gift. This is a present that I’ve been given.
Now, I necessarily wouldn’t usually choose it if I could reorder it off the menu, I wouldn’t. But this is my journey and it is uniquely, actually positioned me to be able to love and to serve and to walk with certain other people that have the same gift. And me hiding from it and me acting like it was some cancer in my life that was going to destroy me was not creating good patterns in my life. But as I could actually say, you know what? I profess this, I’m going to possess it. It’s going to be a present in my life. It’s the things that God has actually then began to take and say, you know what?
Now this can become fuel, this can become passion to show you a place in a need where you can step in to serve with great passion in your life. And I’m excited for those of you that decide to walk this rogue away with us. I’m excited for what will happen as you begin to step from a place where pain and stronghold and captivity shape and define your life to where you say, no, I’m going to step into my destiny and I’m going to do the hard work of actual forgiveness and redemption so I can live with freedom.
You are created to be free and it’s where God wants to take you and we want to help you in that process. That is the third of the four Noble Quests last episode. We’re going to walk through the fourth one and third and fourth one real quick. And that’s the second one. We’re going to talk about the third and the fourth one in one episode double packed here in the next week. And if you have questions, you have thoughts, email me, daron@daronearlewine.com text me 3175505 and hey, if you say I don’t need to hear anymore, Daron, I want to figure out what does it look like for me to be able to get and be a part of the rogue collective.
Go on to daronearlewine.com, schedule a 30-minute call. Let’s jump on, let’s talk about it. Let’s see if we have room to put you in a band and grow together, get free together because God’s for you. He’s not against you. He’s near you. He’s not far away. And he has created you on purpose and for a purpose. Talk to you next time right here on the Daron Earlewine Podcast.