Transforming Lives with Faith, Hope, and Love
Daron discusses the importance of community and love in personal growth, emphasizing that love should be the central quest in life. He outlines four noble quests: destiny, freedom, love, and activation, highlighting that true love involves seeing, knowing, affirming, and blessing others. He encourages listeners to adopt a mindset of compassionate curiosity, especially when faced with unloving behavior, and to start from a place of being loved themselves. He stresses that living a life of love is essential for fulfilling one’s purpose and invites listeners to engage further through his website.
Real freedom comes from confronting pain and reclaiming what’s been lost. Are you ready to take the leap toward healing?
Key Takeaways:
- ⚡️The Rogue Collective aims to awaken, equip, and empower leaders by integrating faith and innovation in the marketplace.
- ⚡️Living Loved involves starting from a place of being loved and recognizing one’s connection to a divine flow of love.
- ⚡️The four noble quests—Destiny, Freedom, Love, and Activation—serve as guiding principles for personal and spiritual growth.
- ⚡️To truly love others, one must see, know, affirm, and bless them, cultivating a life of compassionate curiosity and selflessness.
- ⚡️Activation and actionable planning are crucial to turning aspirations into reality and fulfilling one’s purpose.
Notable Quotes:
- “We’ve got to live loved. This has to be the starting place for us.”
- “People are generally irrational, unreasonable, and selfish. They deserve to be loved anyway.” Mother Teresa
- “Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
- “Hope is not a strategy. We’re going to put action and a plan around how to become who you were born to be.”
- “Our life is lived to actually be a conduit for which things flow through us into the lives of other people.”
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TRANSCRIPT
And the whole process is in a response to do our best to do what Wayne Jacobson says when he says that we’ve got to live. Loved. This has to be the starting place for us. Created on purpose and for purpose. Hey, welcome back to the Dared to Leewind podcast. We are bringing this series of the Rogue Way to a close. I hope you guys have enjoyed these past few episodes. If you haven’t listened to them, you don’t necessarily have to listen to in order, but I would suggest you listen to them all and you can just go back and grab those and listen to them. Because it’s kind of the introduction of what I feel like God’s been nudging me towards over the past couple years.
And we launched this new company called the Rogue Collective here in 2025. And the Rogue Collective is doing its best to awaken the masses and to equip the few, to empower the many. And we’re doing that through speaking, coaching and consulting. And the focus of that is out in the marketplace. I’ve done a lot of work in the nonprofit space and a lot of work in the faith community over the past 24 years, and we’re still doing that, not turning our back on any of that.
Blackbird Mission, our nonprofit, is still doing our best to awaken people that become what they were born to be and actually disciple disciples to make disciples. And we’ve got a lot of cool stuff we’re working on with that here in the future as well. But with all the work we’ve done for years, we’ve always kind of been one foot inside the church and one foot out kind of in the mission field, if you will, with our work with pub theology, Indy’s best party with a purpose, bringing together faith, hope, love and beer. We did that for years and years and years now for about three and a half years, we did radio theology, faith, hope, love and music and took the message of faith and the love of Jesus out into the secular airways and had a three hour radio show every Sunday morning on WZPL here in Indianapolis and loved doing that.
And through the years, I’ve just done more and more speaking and coaching in the marketplace. And one thing that I just have sensed is that there’s a, a, an opportunity. I remember when Jesus was walking on earth, he taught his disciples and he said, hey, look, right, because the fields for impact or the fields for harvest, he said, are ripe, they’re ready, but the workers are few. He said, pray to the Lord of the harvest that he would send more harvest Hands. And that scripture and that prayer has been something that has been foundational to my life for a long time. I pray it every day, actually.
And in response to that, I sense that God is saying, hey, listen, I really have a lot of people that are ready to create the future that’s currently on his head and in his heart. But the workers are few. And so we’re trying to respond to that and step out into the marketplace and look for these rogue leaders, these people who may be feeling like their life is defined by rebellion, but what they need is somebody to say, no, you’re not a rebel, friend, you’re a rogue.
And what you need is a collective. You need a community to help you step in, to become who God created you to be. You need to actually begin to step into a life that is noble, a life that is transcendent, a life that is formed to step into destiny, to live in the flow of what God’s doing in and through your life, a life that is actually shaped by freedom, a life that is shaped by love. And a life that takes action and got a lot of other stuff we’re working on, but that’s the heart behind it.
If you have questions, listen, jump on daronearlewine.com and schedule a 30 minute call with me. We can talk and see if this is something that that’s for you, maybe something that’s for your company. And if it’s not, no problem, no problem. But we’re trying to be obedient. We’re trying to respond to what we feel like that God’s nudging us to do. And yeah, so I want to just jump on the podcast and give you a little introduction to it. So that’s what we’ve been doing. And now we’re into the last of the four noble quests, the last two, which are love and activation.
First one was destiny. Second one was freedom. And these, the third and the fourth are love and activation. So the third one is this understanding of this noble quest that my life is going to be a quest for love. Once again, this is not a tough one to figure out. If we’re connected, you know, to the divine, created in his image, then our life probably should be a quest for love. Because if we’re created by him and in his likeness, and he is love, then it would make sense that our life would be shaped and formed and, and driven by love.
Love is tough, though. Mother Teresa said it like this. People are genuinely or generally irrational, unreasonable and selfish. First part of her quote, which she nailed, didn’t she? Right? People are genuinely. Or not genuinely, generally. Maybe I should read. People are generally irrational, unreasonable, and selfish. True. I usually am. Right. So are you. So is your husband, your wife, your mom, your dad, your kids. They usually are. Then she hits. She hits us with this one.
They deserve to be loved anyway. People are generally irrational, unreasonable, and selfish. They deserve to be loved anyway. Mother Teresa. So true. They do. And it’s what we’re called to do. It’s what we respond to do. When we’re living in the flow, when we’re living towards our destiny, we’re living towards freedom. It’s really the crosshairs of what Jesus told us to do in John 13 when he said, so now I’m giving you a new commandment.
Love each other. Just as I have loved you. You should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. So if we’re going to be a follower of Jesus, we’re going to live the true rogue life. We have to live a life of love. And there’s no better mentor in that than Jesus. And there may be no greater struggle than to do this. And something I’ve been challenged by recently, just reading the words of Jesus in his teaching, it’s all the simple stuff, right? That’s really hard. Like, you know when Jesus says stuff like, hey, bless those who curse you, I’m like, man, that sounds good.
And then people curse you, right? They say bad things about you. They gossip about you. They slander you. Think about the last time that happened. And for some of you think that hard, you’re like, it was last week, bro. Maybe so. Or maybe they talk about someone you love and they lie and they slander, right? They. They spread rumors or lies or they just say mean things about people you love. Like, think about that emotion that you have right? Where you’re like, okay, well, it looks like it’s going to be jail for me because they need to pay, right?
I’m more about justice, Daron. Can justice be one of the four noble quests? Because that’s. That’s my jam. I’m more the justice person. And then Jesus is like, hey, vengeance is mine, Say the Lord. Like, I just. For me, I just realized, like, God, this is the tough things, because every time that I, like, I feel wronged by people, right? I want to wrong them, and I want to wrong them, right? If you know what I mean, right? Like, I want to. Like, I don’t.
And I realize this love thing is counterintuitive. And not easy at all. And then Jesus, you got to go and say something like, hey, guess what? The way that you do this, the way you love people, that’s going to be the thing that actually will people know, like, if you really are connected to me. Yeah, not easy. I’m not very good at that yet. Once again, the power of the word yet, right? And so what we try to do as we walk this third noble quest is to actually begin to bring some handles into what are ways that I can learn to love.
And as we look at these, this third of the four noble quests, we walk through this process, we do this in a couple different places within the rogue collective, the rogue way. And the whole process is in a response to do our best, to do what Wayne Jacobson says when he says that we’ve got to live loved, this has to be the starting place for us. Like when Jesus says, hey, I want you to love each other just as I have loved you. Like, I’ve already loved you, I am loving you.
So your first foundational block here to love is you have to live love, meaning that you’re starting from a place of being loved. Not that you have to go do something to earn it, not that you have to go out and try to make it happen. It’s already there. I’m starting from a place that I actually am loved. And I have connection and access to the continual flow or love of God, so that it allows me to step out of the pain of my past, out of the pain of the moment, out of the captive, the things that are going to hold me captive, to actually step into the freedom of this moment, to love like, he is already loving me. I live loved, okay?
And within that, I think there are four key points that we can look into of how do I actually practically love people. And I think it breaks down to this is for us to allow people to be loved. We have to do this. We have to see them, we have to know them, we have to affirm them, and then we need to bless them. The four tenets are the four foundations, if you will, of love. Seeing people, knowing them, affirming them and blessing them.
The first thing is we got to see people. This is something that I’ve been noticing about our culture is technology. These wonderful devices here called iPhones or if you are an Android user or whatever, Google, whatever their phone’s called, they are amazing, amazingly effective of making people invisible. I’m getting the opportunity to travel a little bit more and enjoying it. I like to travel. I Like the adventure.
But I tell you what, going through the airport’s a trip, right? Whether you’re on one of the little tram things that trains that take you from terminal to terminal, if you’re in Atlanta or in a bigger airport, Phoenix, or you’re just walking, right? Is it takes us about a half a second of boredom to pull out our phone and completely make everyone invisible in our life. Like, I’m not making eye contact. I’m not talking to anyone. I’m just going to get on my phone because I’m building a city. It’s called Sim City. It’s really amazing. You should see it. A lot of tall buildings, right? I don’t know what it is that you do. I got to check Instagram to see what my friends are eating.
We take out our phones and we immediately make people invisible. It’s really hard to create a community of love when no one sees one another. And then when we do see people, it becomes awkward because we’re not used to it, because we’re used to our own little world we’ve created. We got to see people. If we’re going to love them, then we got to know them. How do you know people and love them? Well, we talk about this over and over again, and in the rogue way we talk about it over and over again is that we have to embrace and actually develop the character trait of compassionate curiosity.
And I, this is difficult because when someone does something that’s unloving to you and you see behavior, actions, attitudes, whatever it is that just don’t make sense and that are offensive or that are unloving or hurtful to you, usually my response is, what the freak is wrong with that person? That is my natural inclination, not loving, but what is wrong with you? Then every once in a while, I get this kind of still small voice of the Holy Spirit that says things like, what if you were to ask this, I wonder what happened to them, right? Because I remember, I believe it was Greg Gaston, who’s a great teacher here in our community. Great teacher, great coach. I remember him telling me years ago, he said, you know what, Daron? He said, I’ve taught and I’ve coached and I’ve taught in the high school for many, many, many years, Decades.
And he said to me, he said, Daron, I don’t think I’ve ever met a kid that didn’t want to be a good kid. And that kind of stood out to me because I’ve coached for a lot of years and I’ve been around a lot of Kids. And sometimes I’m like, I’m not, I’m not sure that kid wants to be a good kid. But the more you’re around them and you stop going, man, what is wrong with you? And you go, man, I wonder what happened to you. You begin to get compassionately curious about the life they’ve had to have lived, the environment that they’ve been surrounded by. You begin to realize, wait a second, no, there’s something really beautiful, actually divine about you.
You really do want to be a good kid. There’s just a lot of pain in there that’s showing itself and really unloving behavior. And do I actually have enough love within me to put how I’m offended on the back burner and actually become compassionate and curious about the journey you’ve been in? So if I do, I’ve got a shot at actually loving you. You got to see him, you got to know him. You need to affirm them. You got to encourage one another.
Talk about this often that our brains are hardwired for the negative. Do you know that they say that your brain is kind of like Velcro to negative, but Teflon to the positive. This is interesting to me and I’ve experienced it. Probably you have too, right? They say it takes, you know, something like five to one, positive to negative. If you hear one negative comment from somebody, it’s going to take five positive comments to actually begin to turn the tide. Or just bringing you back to level.
I heard a study a couple years ago that says it usually takes 10 to 15 seconds for you to actually ruminate and you actually to focus on some positive emotion or thought for it to even imprint upon your brain. And if you don’t, it just passes through and doesn’t make really an impact. And so I challenge people when I do a lot of this training in the marketplace and I say, hey, if you’re a manager, if you’re a boss and you’re trying to encourage your team, does your affirmation last at least 10 seconds? Or is it more like a one second affirmation like, hey, appreciate you guys. Hey, good job. Everybody did a good job in your home.
And when you encourage your kids say, good job, appreciate it, or your spouse or a friend, when’s the last time you took the time to make sure an affirmation lasted 10 seconds? Because if you did, guess what? Their heart and their mind heard it and felt it and they felt loved. It’s a key. It’s a part of this noble quest. The last thing is this if we’re going to actually love people, if we’re going to live love and allow love to flow through our life, and it be a noble quest of our life, we have to live where we bless people once again. There we go. There’s another one of our transcendent threads that we started this rogue life conversation with.
And it means that our whole life is lived as a conduit. That everything good that comes into our life, every form of capital, whether that’s financial capital, whether it’s relational, whether it’s emotional, whether it’s mental, right? These things that come into our life, these good things that come into our life, what happens is they actually are never meant just for possession. But our life is lived to actually be a conduit for which things flow through us into the lives of other people. We do that, we become a conduit of love.
And in that, we have a redemptive response to every situation in our life. And what that means is we always move for our life to become a win, win, win in any situation. Because sometimes you get in a situation, right? And if you’re not real concerned about love, then what you say is, here’s how this is going to work. I’m going to win and you’re going to lose. You’ve been in conversations, you maybe have been in relationships like that. Like, we’re going to get into this fight and here’s how this is going to work. I win and you’re going to lose, and we’re going to stay in this fight until you know that I’ve won and you’ve lost.
Then some of us where we have a flip. A lot of times we get into conversations or we get into negotiations or we get into fights with somebody. And the way that our life has kind of structured us, we’re more of a I’ll go ahead and lose so you can win kind of person. And neither of these are loving. Some people would say, well, here’s the deal. The real win is when we get to a place where we’re not going to stop, we’re not going to be done with this until it’s a win win where I can win and you can win, which is great, and that is loving.
But I think there’s even a next level. There’s a next level where I see my life not as just something for me and for you, but for how we actually begin to impact the world. And so I’m working in my life to figure out what does it look like for each situation, for Each negotiation. And this could even be even taken into the marketplace. This isn’t just about an us winning or you winning. Right? Where we win as a company and our customer wins, but that we win, they win.
And what we’re doing allows the community, allows the world, allows something outside of ourselves to actually win a win, win, win. And I think that’s what love does. Last thought is this. And we’ll wrap with this is the last thing we do as a part of this Rogue Way, as a part of these four noble quests is we activate it. Great quote that’s been said by a lot of different people that said a lot of different ways sounds something like this. Either hope is not a hope is not a strategy. And this is true. We have a lot of things in our life, we’re like, man, I hope this would be better.
And what we do as a part of the Rogue Collective is to do part of the rogue waves. We do part of these four noble quests is what’s the end of it. We don’t allow you to go through it and go, hey, I hope you figure it out. See you later. Because that’s not a plan, and that’s not a strategy that actually brings life change to your life and the life of those around you. And so what we do is we help you actually begin to put together an activation plan. This is what I’m actually going to do with what I’ve learned about my destiny. This is what I’m going to actually do about my step towards freedom. This is what I’m going to actually do in this amount of time with these people, to actually see love become something that is the main quest and focus of my life.
We’re going to put action and we’re going to put a plan around how to become who you were born to be. And then as a group, we’re going to do our best to actually help you, encourage you and hold you accountable, to step into that. Because hopefully is not a plan. A plan is a plan. And we’re going to help you activate it. And in that, we’re going to help you take steps, your next steps, to become who you were born to be.
And that’s a look at the Rogue Way. That’s a look at this operating system that we’re helping people step into to become who they were born to be. Because we really believe that the future is yet to be created. And for us here at the Rogue Collective, here at Blackbird Mission, we believe that the amazing offer from a holy, eternal, powerful, creative God is that he loves us and that he loves us. And he created us to be in relationship with him so we can partner with him and actually take part in creating the future that are on his heart and his mind. And that the future he is envisioning is one that is full of faith and of hope and of love.
And so what we want to help you do is to take your next step to actually respond to the invitation to create the future that’s on his heart and his mind. And when we do, we will live into the destiny these created us for we will find ourselves set free from that which holds us captive. And we will live and we will lead with love. And when we do, we will experience life as it was created to be lived.
That’s the rogue way, and we’d love for you to be a part of him. If you’re interested, reach out. Shoot me an email Daron@daronearleine.com head over to DaronEarlewine.com schedule a discovery call or just send me a text. 317-550-5070 we’d love to have a conversation with you. And yeah, this is going to be fun. This is going to be exciting and we’re glad to have you on the journey. Until we talk again on this podcast, remember these three things. God’s for you. He’s not against you. He’s near you, not far away. And he’s created you on purpose and for a purpose.
We’ll talk to you next time right here on the Daron Earlewine Podcast.