Knowing Your True Voice & the Dangers of Impersonation
Key Takeaways:
- ⚡️Understanding your vocational voice is crucial to living a purposeful and authentic life.
- ⚡️The concept of being created “on purpose and for purpose” highlights the importance of individual uniqueness.
- ⚡️There are five vocational voices: Pioneer, Creative, Connector, Nurturer, and Guardian, each contributing uniquely to the world.
- ⚡️Recognizing and valuing all voices is essential for building effective teams and communities.
- ⚡️Avoid living a “bad impersonation” of yourself by aligning with your true vocational identity.
Notable Quotes:
- “If you don’t know your vocational voice, you might be doing a bad impersonation of yourself.”
- “You are someone who was created on purpose and for purpose.”
- “In the beginning, God created. He started it all.”
- “A vocation is not something you try; it’s someone you become.”
- “We are created to create and design, to design.”
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TRANSCRIPT
Because understanding this is so important. Because if you don’t know your vocational voice, here’s the danger. You might be doing a bad impersonation of yourself created on purpose and for purpose. Hey, welcome back to the deairlyinde podcast. Daron Earlewine, your host here with you and excited to get to the next. Not the next, I guess the first core question. I did a little intro in the last episode. If you’re with us. If you weren’t, go back and listen to episode 160, whatever that last one was, the intro to the four core questions. So you get a little understanding of what we’re doing, what we’re getting into. And what I want to jump into quickly, right off the bat here for this episode is to look at the very first question.
And the very first question is, who am I really good at understanding of identity? I want to thank you so much for download the podcast, whether you’re watching it on YouTube, listening through it through Apple Podcast, Spotify or whatever podcast platform you use. Thanks so much for downloading it. And I would ask a big favor is if you’d be willing to subscribe to the channel, whether it’s an audio or here on YouTube, if you’re watching the podcast. Makes a big difference.
Appreciate it. If you want little tidbits of the podcast throughout the week, maybe just an appetizer before you watch it. If you haven’t gone and followed me on Instagram or on YouTube shorts, please do that. Because every week we send that little, little highlights of the podcast. And so I just my name Daron Earlewine on Instagram on there. I think I’m the only Daron Earlewine. And if you look at it, there’s a bunch of posts on there. You can stay up to date with what we’re doing and just get your appetizer for the podcast each and every week, or maybe just a reminder and we post some old stuff, we be like, I remember that episode two years ago. That was so good.
And I give you a little inspiration in that. So go check that stuff out. And thanks so much once again for being a part of the podcast community. The first core question we’re going to take a look at, we’re going to examine, we’re going to dig into is who am I? And we’re talking about identity. And if there’s anything that goes sideways or that causes our life to go sideways, it’s a misunderstanding or an illusion of our identity. Who are we as a human being? And then specifically, who was I uniquely created to be.
And if we have some statements to guide this. Right. The number one statement, because we say it all the time. Right. Is who are you? You are someone who was created on purpose and for purpose. You work. You’re not an accident. You’re not a rerun. You were created on purpose and for purpose. Here’s something else that’s true about. You are someone who was created and has been designed to fulfill a unique vocation.
We’re going to unpack what that means. What is a unique vocation. Okay. And I believe you have been given a voice to create that future. Okay. We’re going to unpack what that voice is. We’re looking at what we call the five voice. It’s a great tool to help you unpack and really understand who you are. Right. Your leadership voice and how you show up at work, at home, at play. And I hope it is something that’s going to be really impactful to you. Okay? A couple quotes that I love, and this one is the first one comes from Desmond Twou. And he says this. He says, I am who I am because of who we all are.
Okay. I am who I am because of who we all are. And in that, I think Desmond is really hitting the understanding of what we are as human beings. And we talked a little bit about the difference of human beings and just animals in the last episode, but we’re going to dig a little bit further because I think there is something transcendent, spiritual true about who we are as human beings. And this origin story for humans is shared in the Jewish scriptures. Right. The first five books of the Old Testament called the Pentateuch. It’s also in your modern day Christian Bible, and it comes from the book of Genesis, the very first book of the Bible.
And another quote that hits on this, too, that I thought was great from Dennis Whley, he’s an author. He says this. It’s not what what you are that holds you back. It’s what you think you’re not. Isn’t that good? It’s not what you are that holds you back. It’s what you think you’re not. And that’s why this core question is so important to ask and answer. Right? Because if Desmond says I am who I am because of who we all are, and there’s this understanding that is deep to what it means to be human in. And if I don’t actually believe that, if that’s not an answer I’ve gotten and it found my life on. Right.
That’s not holding you Back the fact that that’s the truth, the fact that you don’t believe that it is true. And I think it comes down these four questions kicking off with this first question. It comes back to the first, in my opinion, five words of the Bible which says this in the beginning got created. In the beginning got created. And we’re not here to debate right know, was it seven days, was it not? Did God create things with the appearance of age or were they.
Was it just the beginning of it? And what’s the timef frame of this? I’m not here to debate and figure all that out. We’re not talking about macro microevolution here. This is not that kind of podcast. Those are great questions, those are great conversations, but we’re not having those today. The conversation I want to have is that I think for you to become you are born to be. I think for you to live a life that’s effective. I think for you to live a life that actually gives answers to these deep questions, you’ve got to know who you are. And I think a part of understanding your value is understanding that you didn’t just accidentally get here. God created you on purpose and for a purpose.
In the beginning God created, He started it all. And I think that that that can bring so much peace, so much understanding to the good, the bad, defining our place in this world. And I think a lot of us struggle with that and that’s okay to wrestle with that point. This is what I believe. I’m not saying you have to believe it. I’m saying this is what I believe. I’m saying it’s the core of what we believe at Rogue Collective, what we believe at Black Perission.
But there’s I think a lot of questions that could asked about this. I was watching country music and award show this past year and Casey Muskers is on there. I think she’s an amazing songwriter, amazing lyric. She’s got just a beautiful voice and it’s just herd an acoustic guitar and she began singing her song Architect. If you’ve not heard it want to encourage you the podcastes over to go checking out go download the the song and listene to it. But here are some of the lyrics to it starts off and it says even something as small as an apple. It’s simple and somehow complex.
Sweet and divine. The perfect design. Can I speak to the architect? And there’s a canyon that cuts through the desert. Did it get there because of a flood? Was it devised? Or were you surprised when you saw how Grand. It was. Was it all thought out? Was it thought out at all? Or just paint on a wall? Is there anything that you regret? I don’t understand other blueints, blueprints or plans. Can I speak to the architect?
Right. Last verse says this. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I wish I could make a request Can I pray it away? Am I shapeable clay or is this as good as it gets? One day you’re on top of a mountain so high you’ll never come down Then the wind at your back carries embers and ash Then it burns your whole house to the ground Then she comes back and this is the last verse. So this one says this. I thought I was too broken and maybe too hard to love I was in a weird place and I saw the right face and the stars and the planets lined up does it happen by chance? Is it all happenstance? Do we have any say in this mess?
Is it too late to make some more space? Can I speak to the Architect? This life that we make is it random or fate? Can I speak to the Architect? And that she ends the song with this question, Is there an architect? And I think when you look at everything that she talks about in that song, right? Love, creation, pain, struggle. If it’s all random, if it’s all happenstance, if there’s no purpose behind it, it’s tough to really find joy and something that’s great because it was an accident. And it’s really tough to find any meaning and suffering because it obviously has no purpose.
But if there is an architect, then I believe there is an architect. It’s important for us to know, well, what does it mean that the jewishriptures Christian scriptures say that we’re actually created in his image. What does it mean to say that I’m an image bearer of God? Here’s a couple things it means. First and foremost, doesn’t mean you look like God, right? God doesn’t look like me. Doesn’t look like you. We’re not talking about physical resemblance here.
We’re talking about character. We’re talking about the spiritual essence of what we are. And it kind of comes back to what I was saying in that last episode about what’s different about you than your dog and your cat. Well, you’re an image bearer of God means this, that you have a spiritual and moral resemblance to God, right? Human beings, we possess this quality that reflects something about this transcendent nature of God.
That we can have the ability to reason. We have the ability to love, to choose between Good and evil, right? And to form relationships. And that comes down to understanding things like morality, justice, righteousness. And these things resonate in our soul. Even if you’re at a place where maybe you’re questioning, you’re examining right now and understanding what your thoughts on God are, think about it this way.
Why is it that we can watch a National Geographic special and we can watch a lion eat a zebra and go, that’s gross, unfortunate for the zebra, but we don’t go, that’s immoral and terrible and injustice. We need to go arrest a lion. He ate that zebra. That’s totally wrong, right? We don’t say that. We go. It’s kind of gruesome and I wish the Ebrber would have went faster, but that’s the way it works in the animal kingdom.
But if you go try to eat your neighbor, we’re going to have a problem with that. You’re going to make the news and not for good reasons, and you’re going to go to jail for a long time. There’s a reason there, right? And something in your soul, even if you don’t have faith, goes, that’s wrong. There are certain things that are souls, right? They know that they are spiritually and morally wrong. And it’s not just because we evolve to think. That.
It’s because it’s actually hardwired in the image that we were created within. Here’s nothing that happens with one more creative image of God. There’s a rational and intellectual capacity that we have, right? The ability to thinkk, the ability to make the decisions, the ability to problem solve. That we can create art and societies and engage in complex communication, right? It comes down to this idea that we were created to create and design. To design.
I ask people about this all the time. What do human beings uniquely create? And people say, oh, they may create human beings. Well, that’s not unique, right? Horses create. Horses, dogs create. Do dogs like trees create trees? It’s not unique that we can procreate in our kind. But what is unique about human beings that human beings create the future? Every system, structure, every society that has been formed from the history of humanity, every page of every history book that you can read, everything there was done by human beings. And I think we have this capacity because we are created in the image of a creator.
That’s why we can do it. Here’s another thing. We’re creating this image and what we have is we have a relational nature. I say this all the time that I believe as a being, you were Created for and by love. There’s a relational nature to who you are. I believe that being created who you are, an image bearer, God means you have dominion and stewardship over creation. Another reason that we feel it deeply in our side when we see the earth, right?
Being disrespected, being harmed, because there’s something about us that is supposed to care and have stewardship over this beautiful planet that God’s given us, that he’s created. Another part is this, is that we’re given creativity and co creation. If you look back in those ancient scriptures, both the Penateuch and the Bible, we have this story of creation that’s kind of interesting. It says that God creates Adam and Eve in humanity, right? Adam and Eve in his own image. And then it says that he actually invites Adam into the process of naming animals.
The reason that you feel like your life should be purposeful is because the first thing that humanity did was they got to join God and actually start naming stuff. Like how awesome is that? Like if you could see a giraffe and be like I came up with that giraffe. It’phenomenal right? And that’s part of, I think what calls out to you to want to do something purposeful in your life because it’s part of your image that you’re creative, that you actually can join and co create with the divine.
The last thing is this. There’s a dignity and a value that is inherent in your worth, regardless of race or gender, social status, whether any other characteristic you can think about. Like every human being shares this common grace, they would even call it of the nature of God, this foundation of belief, right? It’s why Christians, why Jews and it hold up this idea of the sanctity of human life and why we’re driven to work for justice and equality and human rights. Because it’s down to the essence of who we are as a human being.
As first and foremost, I believe who you are and how much value, creativity, relational ability, spiritual ability, all these things that are just in you because of who you are. I want to get more specific to who you are as a person. And that comes back to that next night. I believe that you have ve been designed to fulfill a unique vocation. Vocation comes for the lat word vocare, right? Which means calling.
I believe that your life has a calling on it. I believe that as a human being you have a vocation, a calling. And I believe you have a unique voice to fulfill it. Jeff Goy, one of my favorite authors in his book the Art of works is this. A vocation is not something you try. It’s someone you become. Someone you become. And I believe it was pre planned for your life, which is beautiful. To understand the distinction between an occupation and a vocation, I want you to go back and listen to the episode where we talked about this in the Four Noble Quest because we talked about there is that all of us have jobs.
O and you may have eight to 10 jobs throughout your life in your occupation. Dave Givenibbons 1 My mentor says it’s kind of like your uniform. It’s the outfit that you wear. And we change outfits all the time, right. And you have an occupation, but it doesn’t define who you are. And the difficult part, and we talked about this in the past episode, is that we spend so much of our life trying to find an occupation that will fulfill our sense of calling and our sense of destiny. It neverell well.
But when you can get clear and begin answering this question, who am I? And you can answer the question of your vocation well, that vocation can actually show up in any occupation that you have and allow you to live with peace and purpose and passion wherever you are. And in that it’s important that you begin to then understand what we call your vocational voice. And I believe that there are five voices.
Five. These are the one I believe are kind the archetypes of design for humanity. And we fulfill one of these roles. Here’s what they are. There are five vocational columns. I believe it’s this. There are pioneers, creatives, connectors, nurturers and guardians. Now I believe that this actually has biblical roots in Ephesians chapter 4. If you want to dig more into that, you can go check out the Spiritual DNA online course.
But I want to take you through understanding these roles. There is an assessment. You can go take it for free at fivevoices.com. great leadership development company out of the UK has developed this assessment and I think it’d be great for you to go take a look at it. What I want to do for the rest of the podcast is walk you through these five voices and give you a chance to see what seems most curious to you, what seems like it could be most closely to who you are.
Because understanding this is so important. Because if you don’t know your vocational voice, here’s the danger. You might be doing a bad impersonation of yourself. Okay. I don’t know if you could do impersonations if you ever tried. I used to do a really good Chris Farley when I was at high school. Now I don’t really do impersonations, although I’ve got some friends that really do a good Donald Trump and it’s really hilarious. I’m trying to work on that because they could be great for dinner parties.
But a lot of times when I speak, I will show people that I can also do a pretyor a pretty poor Arnold Schwarzenegger. It’s very limited in this voice, but it sounds something like this, right? Like, get in the chaa, right? It’s tough to say it quietly. When I do it live, I yell it really loud, like go down. Right? It’s not good at all. No one would hire me to be a voice over actor to fill in lines for Arnold Schwarzenegger. But here’s the funny thing is if I actually thought right. If I actually thought that was my voice, you would never listen to this freaking podcast ever, right?
Think about everything I’ve said in the past 18 minutes of this podcast. If all of it, I was like, the voices, right? Find your calling. You would be like, he is not from Austria where armswarzenegger is s from. That’s not how he sounds. He sounds so foolish. So I couldn’t do my job. I would be fired. No one would download the podcast. No one’s askeding me to come speak. Oay. I don’t think I’d be married to my wife because I don’t think she would probably dated me at the first date. I was like, oh, maybe stay. Good one.
She’d be like, I thought you grew up in Arizona. That sounds really right. If somehow I convince my wife to marry me and we had kids, parenting would be a disaster because I’d be doing this terrible Orold Schwarzenegger impersonation at all times. When my parents. You brush your teeth through your homework, then my kids would be like. Like that. Come on, dad, you kid be like, we know that’s not your voice.
You’re just really ruining your life. And that’s just for comic relief there in the podcast. But I want you to think about it. Like, think about if you were created to be a pioneer, which I’m going to unpack what that voice is and the way that you were raised, the expectations of your parents may the expectation of you, the career you have, you’ve been really, really trying hard to be a nurturer. And the whole time, right? It’s not going very well at work and at home, it doesn’t go very well.
Right? And even in yourself, you’re kind of embarrassed of yourself. Most of the time you’re like this. I just don’t feel right in my life. It’s possibly because you’re doing a bad impersonation of yourself. And that’s why I want to help you understand your vocational voice so that you can begin to become you were born to be fair. All right, let’s go quickly through the voices. Pioneer. A pioneer is someone who is driven.
They’re usually a natural born leader, think entrepreneur. They’re going to be someone who is often sent out on a type of mission. They’re champions oftentimes of aligning people with resources to like win an objective or make something happen. They have a very like anything is possible type attitude with their life. Sometimes pioneers can be seen as a little arrogant because I think they actually have to have a lot of self confidence to believe they can actually go create the future, to move something forward, to find that the quickest, fastest and most effective way to do things.
Pioneers often have outside the box type thinking, meaning that they don’t often want to build on the foundations that were they want to start something new. They got a lot of courage in a pioneer, lot of zest and passion. Oftentimes very inspiring communicators. If you’re possibly a pioneer, that’s your vocational voice. I want you to look back in your life and my guess is that you have been starting new things since you were a kid and that’s something that you’ve seen.
When we talk about the last episode where I was explaining the naming of the rogue collective and the idea of rogue bees is my guess is if you are a pioneer, you have felt like a rebel a lot of your life and maybe been treated that way. But you’re not a rebel, you’re a rogueay Rogue B or understood as a pioneer. Status quo drives you nuts. And if you’re in an organization that you didn’t start or don’t lead, you’re probably often finding yourself kind of bangin your head against the wall of things that don’t make sense to you, that you want to change, that you want to start new things.
A couple blind spots with the pioneer. They can be very me focused, be seen as they said, a appear arrogant at some times. Oftentimes an immature pioneer. Right. Undervalue the other four voices. And I’ve had this explained to me one time that the pioneers kind of like the thumb on the hand where the thumb has this ability to actually touch all the other fingers. It’s the only digit, if you will, on the hand. That can do that.
And so oftentimes pioneers will be like, look how awesome I am. I can do all the stuff that everybody else can. And oftentime if you’re a pioneering, you can do some of the other roles. And sometimes that’s needed and necessary because you’re starting something. And so instead of having a full team of people to work with, it’s just you. The key there is realize that you only serve that purpose and to begin to value the other voices and create a team where that actually happens.
Pioneers get very frustrated when people don’t get it. They don’t get their vision, they don’t get them. Oftentimes they push too hard, too fast, and kind of leave an emotional and relational wake of destruction because they’re just trying to go and get things done. And sometimes for them it’s to separate business from personal. And then they can kind of hurt people with their tone are tacked. And if there was a volume knob on a pioneer, it would be like up to like 11, kind of like the Spinal Tap R MSK211. Well, a Pioneer usually does.
They’re a system of like, of speaking. It would be like a bullhorn or like a bazooka. And sometimes pioneers don’t know what it’s like to be on the other side of them in a negotiation or conversations. And so all of these things about pioneers, they’re going to show up. This is not just how you are at work. This is how you are in life and love at play. It’s who you are. You’ve been put on earth to be a pioneer.
That’s one of the voices, the first voice. Second one is the creative. The creative, when you look at a creative, oftentimes can be an introverted person or’s someone that likes to retreat. They like to, to be creative. They’re more of a visionary. They’re somebody who it’s usually very authentic with their emotions, their thoughts and their perspectives. If you’re looking at jobs and sometimes that you see often in creatives, right, they could be people who are like poets and songwriters, rappers, screenwriters, aid development people.
They could be someone also involved in kind of risk management in some ways, because the creative they also have, they can be a very good like early, like a radar warning system where they have an innate ability that’s given to them to be able to interpret events and kind of the times and be able to bring perspective and critique upon it. So it’s not necessarily like fortune tellers, but it is a situation where if you are Creative is that you’re able to observe and kind of say, hey, I’m looking at this event and this, this makes sense to me. And if we don’t change this, if this is not something we take a look at, what happens is in the future we’re going to see these events take place.
And so it’s very necessary. I think that’s one of the reasons that so many creatives are actually drawn to the creative arts, because they’re able to use their artistic expression to actually bring critique and speak into the moment in a very prophetic kind of word. John Billian, one of my favorite, I don’t know if he’s a songwriter and sometimes it’s R and B, sometimes it’s rap. He write, wrote a ton of hit songs. There’s lots of John Belian’s lyrics that are very, what I would say, prophetic. And that would be kind of the biblical word if you’re looking for that for the creative. Okay.
If you’re looking at some of the creative at their best, like I said, they see the future, they’re future oriented, very visionary. They see long term opportunities as well as potential dangers. They’re often never satisfied, right. With good enough. They want things to be the best they can possibly be. They have a strong sense of social conscious and a desire for integrity in an organization or in a relationship or in a family.
One of the difficult things about people that are creatives is that oftentimes they can fail to notice and celebrate the 90% of something that’s going great because they see the 10% of something that’s not doing very well. Sometimes budgeting, financial things, financial constraints aren’t things they see real easily because they just see the vision. Okay, so second voice there is the creative. Third voice is the connector. Okay?
The connector. If you’re looking for a biblical word that comes along with this would be an evangelist. And that word evangelist literally means the bearer of good news. And that’s when. That’s what a connector is. Connectors connect people with people and resources to people. And so’re if you’re a connector, right? A connector is someone who. They’ve always got a guy, you’ve got this friend, or maybe this is you or somebody telling you, some of you, oh, I got this girl, she’s amazing. She’s the best.
Best nails, best hair, best restaurant, best coffee shop, best movie, best new song is these connectors, right? They always have good news that they’re connecting other people to or they have good news that are resources and People that they can connect people to. So they are absolute champions of relationships, strategic partnerships. They have a huge, usually Rolodex, you know what I mean? Or contact list of people that they’re always connected with. They’re usually amazing storytellers. They’re usually very positive people.
If you’re looking for a. A cartoon character, they’re kind of like Tigger. Real high energy. Whatever we need, I can get it. Like, I’ve got a source, which is great. Connectors, boundless energy, creativity, imagination. Once again, usually very future oriented in their thinking. Some blind spots. Connectors can usually be people pleasers because oftentimes they want people to like them. They want to develop this network of people. And so it’s tough for them to challenge people.
Oftentimes they don’t hear or really engage in critical feedback often. And some of that’s because a lot of times when you’re a connector, you don’t want to hear the negative, because when you have a person or you have a resource that you really believe in, it really becomes personal to you. That makes it difficult for you to hear negative feedback because sometimes you feel like they’re attacking you personally, which they’re not. They’re just maybe attacking your idea.
Another interesting thing I’ve seen with the blind spot of connectors is they tend to boomerang conversations. I do this because I’m a connector. I get this. It. You’ll start talking about something and you’ll say, I’m trying to make this decision about buying a new car, and I’ve got this thing. Then you’re deep into your conversation about the issue that you have and like, oh, man, I got it, man. I totally.
That reminds me of a story in college. One time, my brother and I, we had this old. And all of a sudden I’m telling you a story about myself instead of actually showing up for you to give you advice. So some blind spots for the connector, right? All right, let’s talk about the nurturer. The nurturer is the next voice, and the nurturer is another word you could use there as a shepherd. They’re amazing at nurturing and caring for people. They care for others with the tender heart that they see, needs they confront, but they’re able to also encourage. Right?
Nurturers really long to see people grow to their full potential. And they have an amazing ability to empathize and stimulate people to care for each other, which is an amazing, amazing gift. They are basically like the. The relational oil of any team or any family, any Organization. One of the things about nurtures is that you have to be careful as far as their level of their voice. It might probably like a 2.
They are not cranked up very high. If you want to have an effective team meeting, you’re always going to want your nurturer to speak first. A lot of times you come into a meeting, I’ve been in meetings before where the pioneer will come in or maybe the creative or they’re connected, they’ve got all these ideas and they’re going out, they’re just selling everybody on the idea. And the whole time the nurturer is thinking this is a bad idea because this is going to hurt this and this is going to hurt this and this is going to work.
And the team desperately needs to hear the relational impact or the decision they’re going to make. But the nurturer won’t speak up. And oftentimes the pioneers and the creatives and the connectors won’t stop and go, hey, could you help us think about how this is going to feel to people? And so they’ll leave a meeting, make a terrible decision, or a family will make a decision that hurts a member of the family or someone else.
And what happens is the nurturer won’t speak up because one of the blind spots there is they undervalue their contribution and it’s so necessary. If life is a relationship to everything else is just the details. We need nurtures to speak up because we got to care for each other. They have to value what they bring to any organization, any family, any team, because they’re so necessary. One of the interesting things about nurturesrs is that they are 43% of the population, our nurturess.
Which makes sense if we’re creating God’s image, create us on purpose and for purpose. And he knew it was about love. It’s about relationships. It’s probably why he put 43% of the people on earth that actually are amazing nurture some blind spots, right? I just talked about that as well already about the nurture. They can take things a little bit too personal. They often they’t speak up when they need to.
They can feel unable to challenge or a proposed direction or decision. When they disagree, that’s something that they’ve got to find their voice because they’re so, so needed. That’s a nurturer. The last one is the guardian. The guardian. If you’re looking for a connections as the scriptures, it would be a teacher. Teacher, guardians. They are masters of process. They’re masters of Information. They’re amazing.
They can take very difficult things and make them simple to understand. They can break things down into processes and systems and structures. Administrative, usually superheroes, great with details. They’re executive directors, they re administrators, there are some job scientists, accountants. Numbers and processes and details make sense and they love them. If you’re around a good teacher, a good nurturer, you’re going to find somebody that probably has great lists that are color coded with bullet points and maybe they even use highlighters.
They’re just masters of this. I think they’re exceptional because I don’t have the ability to do it whatsoever. The greater responsibility, stewardship. They really respect value. They value logic, systems, order, procedure. One of the things that can be difficult for a nurturer is that often on a team or in a family, they can be seen as like the wet blanket or the person that just keeps raining. On the parade of the big ideas where you’re pioneer, your, your connect are going to come in with this amazing idea. We’re going to do this. It’going to be great.
And the guardian just naturally begins asking sometimes antagonistic or very detailed oriented questions. Well, have you thought about this? Do we know what this costs? Do we know how we can communicate this? Do we have a system in the past that works on this? And it can feel antagonistic and sometimes you can have conflict between a pioneer or a connector in a guardian because you’re like dude, just get on, just get on with the vision. Like why do you always got to bring up being negative about what it is? And they’re not being negative, they’re being unbelievably helpful because if those answers, those questions don’t get answered, if that process doesn’t get played out right and planned out, the plan is going to fail.
And so they’re so needed for that. One of the things that you have to be careful about if you are a guardian is you got to watch tone and intact sometimes at how you communicate. So you’re not seen as someone who’s just an interrogator but that you’re actually there to help and bring the best out of the situation. But they’re so, so needed a great guardian on any team. One of the things I want you to see is how important all five of the roles are.
If you’re going to have an effective team at work, you re going have an effective team at home. If you’re going to have an effective team in anything that you’re a part of, you need to have all five voices present at a table, present on a team, and make sure that there is value given to each voice. These are their vocational callings, their vocational voices. And as people step up, if you can value each voice, and each voice can, by the contribution that they make to the organization, to the team, to the family, you’re going to find something that operates at high capacity with high vision, high follow through, takes care of people.
There’s actually a process to where things get done. It is the archetype of humanity. And so if you don’t know your type, I want you to go to FiveVoices.com you can take the test. It’s free. It’ll give you a little assessment. There’s a book out there that you can read about it. There’s other podcast things you can listen to. But if you’re struggling to understand and answer this first question, who am I? You’re going to start with your vocational voice and I implore you, do not waste any more of your life doing a bad impersonation of yourself. The world needs your voice. You need your voice to be whate you’re born to be. All right, thanks to listen to this episode of the podcast.
Questions, thoughts. Hit me up with them right daron@daronearlewine.com. you can also text me at 317-550-5570. I would love to be part of the conversation. And if you want deeper coaching in this for your team at work or home or play, I want you to head over to roguecollectivecoaching.com. you could schedule a discovery call with me and jump on. We can talk about it once again. Roguecollectivecoaching.com. go over, hit me up and let’s help you become who you’re born to be and start getting answers to these core questions.
Appreciate Jo listing this episode, the podcast and until we talk again, remember these three things got us for you. He’s not against you. He’s near you. He’s not far away. And he’s created you on purpose and for purpose. Thanks for listening. This episode the Daron Earlewine Podcast.