Knowing Your True Voice & the Dangers of Impersonation
Join Daron as he delves into the Enneagram’s nine core motivations to help uncover the driving forces behind our actions and relationships. In this episode, Daron explores the connection between motivations and expectations, the significance of communicated expectations to prevent resentment, and how understanding your Enneagram type can illuminate strengths and blind spots. Discover practical insights on personal growth, enhancing relationships, and the power of self-awareness through the Enneagram’s triads. Tune in to explore your motivations and embark on a path toward personal and relational fulfillment.
Key Takeaways:
⚡️Understanding the Enneagram helps identify core motivations and expectations.
⚡️Core motivations may manifest as uncommunicated expectations leading to resentment.
⚡️Each Enneagram type presents its specific strengths and shadows, offering clarity in personal and relational development.
⚡️Exploring motivations helps bridge the gap between conscious self-awareness and interpersonal effectiveness.
⚡️Embracing the Enneagram enables one to move towards being who they were born to be by leveraging insights on identity, nature, nurture, and choice.
Notable Quotes:
⚡️”Your greatest weakness is hidden in the shadows of your greatest strength.”
⚡️”When we have unconscious or uncommunicated expectations, we have resentments.”
⚡️”The need to answer this question brings us to a level of consciousness of our motivations.”
⚡️”Understanding these motivations and these expectations helps people get out of their own way.”
⚡️”Your life is relationships. Everything else is details.”
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With a blind spot sometimes of the Enneagram type is that it’s also something that’s not working out for me. So another way people say this is that oftentimes, right, your. Your, your greatest weakness is hidden in the shadows of your greatest strength. And so with your Enneagram, what you find is, is, okay, I can begin to leverage this motivation. I can begin to, you know, leverage this type to do the work I need to be successful in relationships. But I also begin to get insight and what I need to stop doing or pay more because it’s not working out for you.
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Hey, welcome back to the Daron Earlewine Podcast. So excited to have you back with us as we continue this series called the four Core Questions. And enjoyed this series. Excited to get this content out to you. It’s all part of the train that we’re doing with Rogue Collective, our new venture to make an impact out in the marketplace all over America, and stoked to be working with the companies that we’re working with.
And if you’re watching this because you were part of the training and you’re like, I wanted some more content, wanted some more development. Glad to have you here on the podcast. If you’re intrigued in what we’re doing, you want to see more information, you can go over to roguecollectivecoaching.com take a look over there of what we’re doing, roguecollectivecoaching.com and if you want to know the vision behind what we’re doing and how it all fits together with our nonprofit work with blackbird mission, you can watch some of the first videos. We did an intro to that back in January and those, those episodes are out there. And go check them out. Thanks so much for down those episode. Whether you’re listening or you are watching on YouTube, stoked to have you here, we’re going to answer the next of the four core questions. And that question is question two. And it’s this.
Why do I do what I do? Why do I do what I do? And this, this, this whole process is so key because when we’re talking about why, right. We’re talking about motivations, and we’re talking about core motivations. Now, another word I think that we could use in this in talking about motivations would be expectations.
And so when you have a core motivation, what happens is that manifests itself in the. The expectations you have of what an environment will be, will be like, what relationships will operate like, what a workplace environment will be, the way that my marriage will function the way that my kids will function, the way that my friendships will function. I have this motivation, which is create an expectation of how I’ll be talked to, of how I’ll be listened to, how I’ll be treated. All these things are happening. And here’s the difficult part.
I remember when I was. My wife and I, Julie, we were getting ready to get married and we were working with our premarital counselor, and Pastor Lloyd was his name. I remember he said this to us. He said, Daron and Julie said, uncommunicated expectations are resentments under construction. And that has proven itself to be unbelievably true in our marriage and in really every friendship that I have, every relationship that I have is when I can’t communicate the expectations I have.
Right. What happens is I have resentments that are becoming constructed under the surface in my life. And I’ll add something to this. I’ll say, here’s another thing is when we have unconscious or uncommunicated expectations, we have resentments that are building in every relationship we have. And so the reason it’s so important to answer this core question of why do I do what I do? Because if you don’t know your core motivation, you don’t know what expectations. So they stay unconscious. You’re not conscious of them.
And if you’re not conscious of them, there’s no way you’re going to communicate them. Right? Once you’re conscious of them, then you kind of find the courage to actually begin to communicate them. That’s where the real work happens. That’s where the real growth begins to happen. Because this shows up everywhere, guys. This shows up in our relationship with God, our relationship with our parents, our relationship with our spouses, our best friends, our co workers are everywhere.
And so the need to answer this question brings us to a level of consciousness of our motivations. And then we learn to actually communicate. The moment we do, we can begin to deconstruct the resentments in our life and actually begin to grow and to experience a level of peace and actually growth in our relationships. And once again, that’s your life. Your life is relationships. Everything else is details.
The tool that we use to help us uncover motivations called the Enneagram. Ennea meaning dine. Diagram. Meaning diagram. Right. A nine. There’s nine points of the Enneagram, and it comes up to nine. They’re not necessarily personality types. You could say that. But they’re really nine core motivations that we all that happen in society. And you Have a type that is your core type that helps you understand what are the core motivations or expectations running my life, and how can I begin to understand those and understand those in the lives of others so that I can experience the kind of relational and leadership life that I desire and that probably everyone desires. Okay, lots of great books out there that unpack. This one’s called the Wisdom of the Enneagram.
That’s really great. Ian Crone. Cron. Crone, however you say his name, C R O N. Has written quite, I think, two books that are written. There’s Susan Stabile has written some great books, and Ian says this is one of his quotes. He says there’s great wisdom in the Enneagram for people who want to get out of their own way and move closer towards becoming who they were born to be. I love this quote, and here’s why.
He says there’s great wisdom here and understanding these motivations and these expectations for people who want to get out of their own way and move closer, become the one. Get out of their own way. Here’s how I say it is most often your Enneagram type. Okay, I’m a type 7. And that my sevenness really comes out in what I would say is that the Persona that I put off in life and this Persona in life is something that I use. It does work for me to get the attention, the affection, and the affirmation I need to feel okay.
And all types are doing this. I am motivated. And we’ll unpack the seven here in a minute. There’s certain things that are motivating me that have become my Persona that do work for me, right? They get me attention, they get me affection, they get me affirmation. And so they’re doing work for me. Here’s the, the, the, the. The. The. I want to say dark side, but maybe the blind spot sometimes of the Enneagram type is that it’s also something that’s not working out for me.
So another way people say this is that oftentimes, right, your. Your. Your greatest weakness is hidden in the shadows of your greatest strength. And so with your Enneagram, what you find is, is, okay, I can begin to leverage this motivation. I can begin to, you know, leverage this type to do the work I need to be successful in relationships. But I also begin to get insight and what I need to stop doing or pay more attention to because it’s not working out for me.
We’ll talk about, if we have time to get through it, the kind of the core Sins or, or, or vices within each type. And for instance, in the seven, right, if there’s a motto that a seven would have is more is better. And the course, sin or vice is gluttony. So I know that usually if there’s some way that I kind of fall down the stairs or get in my own way in my relationships at work, at home, or at play, it’s because I do too much or I want too much.
And that’s something that I’ve had to understand and look at in the, in the past history of my relationships at work, home and play and say, yeah, you know what? This is really true. And as I began to get understanding on that, I began to experience great growth. And I think that is what Ian is hitting on there. Okay, as you look at this, you’re looking at a deeper understanding of identity. And as we look at that, you look at the. Your enneagram type kind of comes from three things.
It’s nature, nurture, and choice. Meaning some of this was is your nature. It’s part of your DNA of who you are. The other part that began to shape this type is nurture. The nurture you did or didn’t receive from your upbringing. And so within that, this is, it can be complex, but it’s a great roadmap to kind of start making sense of yourself. Right? Because any reaction, any action that you have in your life, like if you really dig and begin to understand the nurture, what’s happened there, it makes sense.
Like you make sense. And that’s the power of asking these deep questions, to start making sense of yourself so you can start making sense of your world and the actions you need to take and make sense of your future. So it’s nature, it’s nurture, and then it’s choice. Meaning as you went through your life, you begin to make choices, to find ways that your life worked for you or what was going to do work for you.
The tough part is the, if you were unconscious of that, you’re probably not paying attention to how these choices aren’t working out for you. And that’s once again where the path of growth comes from. Understanding this.
As we look at this, there’s a beautiful model of this I find in actually in the scriptures. And once again, I talk about Jesus a lot because I find him unbelievably unique of any leader in the world and has been the greatest leader and mentor in my life and in his story. It’s interesting because you look at this nature, nurture, choice, Pieces is right when Jesus comes on the scene and begins right before he starts doing his work, there’s this beautiful image where he is baptized. And as he comes up out of the water, they said there’s a voice from heaven which the scriptures say was the voice of his father, saying, this is my son, in whom I am well pleased.
And the interesting thing about that is it happens at a time where his identity is really being constructed, right? He’s a son of God, right? Made in the image of God. I mean, very similar in some ways of us. And in that he is affirmed not for what he does, but not for what he has, not for what other people are saying about him. Because at this point in his life, he had not done any of the cool, amazing, awesome, life changing, world changing Jesus stuff he did.
But in this moment, as his nature and his nurture and this choice, these moments are happening. He is affirmed, right, and loved just for who he is. And it sets him up to move into the impact that he has. The difficult thing for you and me is we didn’t have that right as we all had parents. They were great in some things, they were not that so great in other things because they were human beings, flawed, just like you and I are.
And in that process that, that’s where we took on some, in the, in the language of the. We took on some, some childhood wounds or traumas that begin to shape that. And a lot of people don’t like this process because they don’t like to look at pain and struggle in their life. But what I want to let you know is this, is that pain can be one of the greatest, greatest helpers and greatest signposts of growth for your life.
And that’s a part of, I think, one of the gifts of what the ideogram can start to bring us. I joke and tell people that oftentimes it’s kind of like the accidental selfie cam of the soul. So if you ever accidentally taken a selfie of yourself or you grabbed your phone and opened it and the camera happened to be open and you weren’t paying attention to it, and you’re like, oh, who’s that? Right? And then you realize, oh crap, that’s me.
That happens often. And as I’m reading through the nine types quickly, I’m not going to be able to go very deep in it with the time constraints we have on the podcast. But as I’m reading through these types, I want you to pay attention to what may feel gross to you or maybe once it makes you want to like crawl to the table or just. It just feel real. Feels very cringy to you. The type that feels that way to you. I want you to get real curious because it’s very possible that’s your type, which is.
Is humbling. But the beautiful thing is when we do actually allow ourselves to be humbled, we actually receive more grace and more insight to grow, which is a beautiful part of the process. Okay, now the Enneagram is broken up into triads, okay? And so there are nine types of. Broken into groups of three. These three groups that are called the gut, the head, and the heart. And that is what we call the intelligence centers.
And it’s the way that you receive and kind of process information and decisions in your life. Some people are gut people. Maybe they’re more action oriented. Like they feel things more in their body when they’re processing or they’re receiving information. Then there’s people that are head people. It’s. It’s for them, they think their way through life. They don’t feel their way through life. Sometimes they don’t become active and go after things, but they’re very, very cerebral. They’re thinking their way through life. Then there’s the heart triad, which. These are people who feel their way through life. Everything comes through the feelings.
And I believe these three triads actually are motivated by what we call Henry. No one talks about the three core lies of humanity. And see if one of these doesn’t kind of hit that cringe factor for you, here’s what they are. The first coralize this. I am what I do or accomplish. And when we hear that word I am, we know we’re talking about an identity word it and that that corresponds to the gut triad, which would be type 8, 9, and 1.
And folks that are in that type, right, is the soundtrack happening in the back of their mind at all times is I am what I do or accomplish, meaning every single day, if I don’t do or accomplish something that makes me proud or makes someone else proud, I feel like I have failed. I feel like I’m worthless. That’s a core motivation that’s happening under the surface at all times.
The other Corali. And this responds or corresponds to the heart triad. People that their way through life. Here’s what the core lie is. They’re believing I am what others think and say of me. Once again, I am what others say and think of me. This is not true. This is a lie. But it is the soundtrack of the motivating factor happening under the surface of your life, most of what you do is to ensure that you get positive feedback from what people think and say about you.
The third one is this. I am what I have. And this corresponds to the head triad, people that think their way through life. And when you hear that I am what I have, it’s not about cars, it’s not about possessions or houses or name brand clothes. It breaks down specifically into more of a station or situation of life. So we’re going to talk about that here in a minute. It’s more like I have knowledge or I have a sense of safety, or I have a sense of freedom and options in life. And I’ll tell you who those correspond to. But those are the three core laws. I want you to pay attention to which one of those you feel like maybe the soundtrack of motivation, your life. Here they are again.
I am what I do or accomplish. I am what others say or think of me or I am what I have. Okay, those are the breakdowns. Those break into what we call the triads. Okay, so head, heart in head, heart and gut. And what I want to do quickly is walk you through the nine types. This is going to be quick, quick flyover. You have to dig much deeper to this, but it’s just giving you a little appetizer, a little taste to be able to answer this core question of why do I do what I do? Okay, we’re going to start with the anger triad or what we call the gut triad.
Anger is something that is prevalent in this one.
These people experience the world through their gut.
This is the eights and the nines and the one. They’re usually action oriented and very instinctual, meaning they tend to act before they think. They would be like the, the shoot, ready, aim type of person.
And they’re motivated by the lie. I am what I do or accomplish. We’re going to start with the eight. If you’re an eight.
If this is your, why you’re called the challenger. You have a very commanding and intense and a very confrontational type of, of personality.
For you, conflict is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s something that you looking for friends that like to actually get. Maybe not necessarily conflict, you’re not afraid of it, but even, even, you know, arguments where you can get and really mix it up with someone, it feels good to you and you feel like you can trust someone that’s willing to challenge you and be in that process. The, the, the core motivation also could be, we’ll just call it that core motivation for an 8, and this is something they don’t realize, this is the actual motivation here, but it’s to deny or hide their own weakness as a way to take control of an environment.
This is where this cringe factor gets in. If you’re an eight, you’re going, man, I really, that’s true. Like, I don’t want to think about weaknesses, and I really am in my intensity in life. I’m trying to just control things and make them work. We’re not trying to dig into all of that. But, but that’s a quick over overview, right? Some blind spots for an eight. They react quickly. They usually overwork.
They’re very intense. The, the, the, the. The core sin or the core vice for an eight is lust or, or intensity. There’s a strong intensity and a zest within an eight.
They’re very authoritarian, authoritative when they speak to other people. And they, they have an aggressive stance. They’re moving towards people, right? They might say something like this, right? It’s important to me that control is maintained. I remember I was coaching somebody and they were trying to figure out if they were a type 7 or type 8. And, and just in their own words, this leader said to me, she said, she said, you know what, Derek? I said, life is just a series of really difficult conversations and I’m not afraid to have.
And I was like, I think you’re probably an eight. Okay, so that’s the eight. Moving on. Okay, we’re going to take a look at the nines. The nines are called the peacemaker, and their core motivation is to avoid conflict. Some words could describe them. Receptive, reassuring, agreeable. But they can struggle with being complacent. The core sin or vice of a nine is sloth, which feels icky, I’m sure, right?
Beautiful thing about a nine. They’re, they’re, they’re generous, they’re unselfish, they’re very inclusive of other people. They’re peacekeepers. They’re just amazingly adaptable friends. If you have a nine, you’re just like, man, they’re just the chillest person I know. And there’s such a gift in your relationship that they have their natural mediators. One of the difficult things for our blind spot for a nine is they tend to mend our med merge, if you will, with other people.
So if you’re talking to a 9 about going to get lunch or something, right? You would say to a nine, like, hey, hey, you want to go lunch? Oh, absolutely. That’d be Wonderful. What do you want? I mean, I don’t know. I mean, I don’t know. Like, Mexican sounds pretty good. Oh, that does sound good. I love quesadillas. But you know when I was thinking the day of my way to work. How about a burger? Oh, my.
I like burgers too. No, no, no, no. You know what? There’s a new pizza place down or down around the corner. Let’s go get to pizza. And then I would be like, sweet, I love pizza. And they would go. The difficult part about the Nine, and this is where we talk about the, the, the, the idea of anger being under the surface for, for the Nine. And they wouldn’t think they’re angry, but what happens with the 9 is they would merge with you to keep peace.
But then the whole time, eventually they would be thinking kind of resentful thoughts about you that, you know what? I actually woke up today. I really did want Mexican food. But you know what? They never even really asked me if I really wanted. They just came up with their ideas and I went along with it because I didn’t want to cause a problem. But like, see how that works. And you do that for six months or six years and, and there’s going to be some resentment and some anger that’s happening under the surface for the Nine.
And that’s a place where they need to be able to understand that they need to speak up for their own needs and realize that conflict is not a negative. It’s just part of relationships. Okay, The Nines. Amazing, amazing people in peace. And avoiding conflict is the main thing for the nine. All right, so about the One. The one is what we call the reformer. Their core motivation is this constant need to perfect themselves or anything they’re a part of.
So the, the, the, the. They’re the reformer. You could also call them the improver.
They’re very principled, they’re purposeful, they’re self control, they’re very conscientious. Right? They fight for justice. That could be a perfectionist. They have high ideals. They can spot errors and things and know how to improve them. Very ethical, very moral. But they have a really, really strong inner critic, which means that, that oftentimes feedback critique hits them really hard because if, if you’re being critical of them, you got to realize with the one, their inner critic within their mind, right? Is, is 10x more involved in critiquing what they’re doing.
But amazing gift to any team, to any family. High integrity, detail oriented, and they literally have the ability to improve Anything, which is amazing. One of their blind spots, they can be very critical and very judgmental and they fear being seen as corrupt or defective or not good. And so they expect that of everyone that they’re around. And when they see things that aren’t good or aren’t perfect, they can become very critical and judgmental of what’s happening around them. It’s a blind spot they have to make, make sure they, they pay attention to.
When they speak, it’s going to be more of a teaching, kind of a preaching almost stance, but just an amazing gift to bring the best out of anything that they’re a part of. They’re going to be high achievers in life. The ones, okay, those are the three gut triads. These are people who don’t really think or feel their way through life. They just do their way through life. Okay, let’s move on to the heart triad. The heart triad, right. Motivated by the lie. I am what others say and think about me.
These people are driven by feelings. They’re emotional, they can be very image conscious.
And once again, they’re feeling oriented. It’s type two, three and four.
Type two, the helper. They’re very generous. They’re very, very, very. They’re the helper, okay? That’s what they’re entitled, the helper. Very great relational. They can be people, place pleasing, servant minded, empathetic, very sociable. They’re helpful. They can be very sensitive to criticism.
They’re usually great listeners. If they have a core motivation, it could be said like this. The need to feel loved and wanted. And they see their world through their relationships.
Everything is seen through a feeling and a relationship for a two. They make others feel valued. They make others feel heard. A lot of times you’ll see it too connected to the last question we talked about, right? The core question of who am I? Nurturers. Nurturers very often type twos on the enneagram. Very intuitive, picking up the emotions of others. They value teamwork. They love working in teams.
Some of the blind spots, they can over commit, okay. And they can sometimes struggle to know what’s theirs to do because they just want to help everyone. And this doesn’t always help out very well. One of the interesting things, the core center vice for a two, which is very surprising to, to a two would be pride. And this is something you got to get real curious in yourself because what happens for twos is they’re so good at loving other people. They do begin to be prideful of that and what you can see in a two in a growth area is a lot of times twos, when they’re unhealthy, will show up almost with a martyr type syndrome where they love people so well and care for people so well. But most people do not are not able to care and nurture and love to the the level that they do.
And so they’ll kind of take on more of a martyr. Martyrdom type. Martyrdom, hard to say stance, which is something to pay attention to. Most time when they’re going to communicate to you, it’s going to be here to sound like help or advice.
Twos are wonderful, wonderful people. Everybody’s wonderful. But twos are just great to be around. Number three, the type three, they’re called the achiever. Very adaptable, very. They excel, they’re driven, they’re going to get a lot of stuff done. Very, very active. They’re multitask, multitaskers. They can achieve, achieve, achieve. That’s what they’re called, the achiever. They’re going to get a lot done. They’re going to be competitive, Right.
But they’re also going to be very image conscious. So the core motivation for three would sound like this. I’m going to get to the top and I’m going to look good doing it. Okay. The core motivation is to succeed and to be perceived as successful and to avoid failure.
The three, their productivity and their efficiency is amazing. They’re going to accomplish goals, they’re going to get things done. They could also sometimes be called the performer or the chameleon. The three is this amazing ability to actually kind of adapt themselves to the environment, to be seen as successful or to succeed. It’s an amazing gift. But it’s tough for them because they can lose themselves in the process.
Right. Because they’re not. They can really do great of feeling what is needed in the room, but not always actually tied into what they’re actually feeling.
Over commitment, overwork can be tough for the three. A lot of times their communication is going to sound like promotion or almost a sales type of a deal. Threes, amazing gifts to any team. Some blind spots there and things they need to work on. We’re going to keep moving. We’re going to run out of time here. The fours. Fours, also a part of the heart triad. They’re called the individualist.
The four is expressive, they’re dramatic. They can be temperamental. It can be a little melancholy sometimes.
And their core motivation is to find themselves as special or unique. Very Important that they feel like an individual forced to be very creative, very inspired. They can bring out in others what is special and unique about them because that they’re drawn to that uniqueness so. Well, some blind spots, they could be moody. They can see detail. Work is very mundane because things need to be original.
If that makes sense. When they communicate. Could be more of a lamenting, almost a victim stance. I’ve heard people say that four sometimes can be like Eeyore from, from Winnie the Pooh.
For the individualist.
Now let’s move into the head triad. Five sixes and sevens. These are thinkers. These are people who think their way through life. They tend to suppress their feelings and, and just think. Okay, it can be a gift, but it can also be a major growth area for them. The head tried and they’re motivated by the core life of I am what I have. I am what I have. The five is the investigator. They’re perceptive, they’re innovative.
They can be secretive and isolating, sometimes are isolated. Oftentimes introverts. They love knowledge and they need time to process things and dig into very a very analytical but also just amazing ability to understand and gain knowledge. Right. The core motivation for the Five is to be capable and competent to gather knowledge and understand everything.
Amazing research is that. Very perceptive, very deliberate, very knowledgeable and very independent with, with the five.
They can be one of the lowest energy types on the Enneagram. And so a lot of times they, they want to get involved and sometimes in depth and relationship or even conflict in a certain ways because they want to preserve their energy for themselves to be able to investigate and dig deeper. Technical, very rational people thinking their way through life. That’s the five. The six is the loyalist. The loyalist is engaging, responsible, can be anxious though. And the core motivation for a six is to feel supported and secure.
If you’re a six, you’re an amazing, amazingly loyal person. Probably some of the best friends you have are sixes.
They’re great planners, they’re dependable, they’re faithful, they have a sense of humor. Right. But they also are one of their strengths that can become a weakness is they can become worst case scenario thinkers because they’re great problem solvers. They have the ability to kind of think through every possible negative situation where that can create sometimes in a six is a level of fear and anxiety.
That is what doesn’t do work where they get in their own way.
For a growth thing for, for a six is, is actually journaling, is A great thing for a six to be able to begin to write down some of the kind of free floating anxiety and problem things they have and actually at the end of the day go back and look and go like, oh, you know what, none of that actually happened. Like, I don’t need to actually be anxious or feel for fear for fearful over those things. If you’re communicating with a six, it may sound like a devil’s advocate. Like they’re always bringing another side for you to think through and. But the beautiful thing is they’re going to be so loyal and connected and committed to you, which is a beautiful, beautiful gift. All right, our last type, we’re talking about the seven.
The seven’s the enthusiast.
This is my type. I get this one. This feels very cringy when I have to teach it. Okay, Once again, seven is in the head triad, mean we think our way through life, suppress our feelings, because our core motivation in life is to avoid painful emotions or really painful anything. And that makes me feel so shallow to say that. But when I understood that, it allowed me to actually tap into what it looks like for me to really grow and become what I need to be and who I was born to be in relationships and on teams to get comfortable with the pain and get comfortable with the process and stay present. Because the enthusiast for the type 7, they’re spontaneous, they’re very versatile, they’re very acquisitive, they think deeply, but they’re very scatterbrained, right?
We chase squirrels all the time looking for all the shiny new objects. The good thing about that is we’re quick learners. We’re great visionaries or great storytellers. We’re very future oriented. We’re always living about three years in the future, very optimistic. One of the downsides or one of the blind spots for the seven is our visor. Our core sin is gluttony, which doesn’t feel good. If the seven had a motto in life, it would be this, more is better.
And that’s rarely the case. A lot of times just more is more or more is too much. And when I began to understand that, it did begin to change a lot for me as far as maturing and growing to a place of getting out of my own way, if you will. From what we talked about earlier, once again, seven’s optimistic make, they make everything fun. If whoever is your funnest friend, they very possibly are seven, boundless energy, always on the go, a lot of passion.
If you’re looking for a Winnie the Pooh reference in here, right. That the 7 would be like Tigger.
They’re great at starting things, not very good at follow through or completing things. Not like. So once again, not great with dealing with the negative. And something they got to really, really pay attention to is growth for 7. Right. Is being able to sit and stillness, solitude, if you will, and feel. Make, make decisions based on a feeling and how others feel, not just on what you think about or what you think they think.
You got to get. Yeah. To grow as a seven, you got to work on setting goals where you actually finish something before you start something else. And oftentimes if you’re communicating with a 7, it’s going to come off as, as a story. Right. Which you listen to the podcast probably because you like when I chase, you know, shiny objects and just tell random stories. So that’s just a quick overview of the Enneagram.
It’s helping you get clear on your why. Why do you do what you do? What are your unconscious, right. Motivations in life that are creating expectations for your life that unknown, unconscious and uncommunicated may be commuted, may be creating resentments in your relationships? I hope you’re understanding the power of what this can do to help your relationships and your leadership grow. Because if you can get to the place where you’ve answered this question, I know why I do what I do.
I’m conscious of it and I’m communicating it and I’m growing in it. You’re going to see conflict and struggle and resentment begin to drain out of your life and an appreciation and a value for other perspectives and other motivations in a way that’s going to help you or your team, your family, your friendships, your marriage begin to grow to the place that, that you, you really dream about them growing to. Okay, so this content, like I said, we’re doing an 80,000 foot flyover on this in, in 30 minutes or less, right.
And so there’s so much more that you can learn. And if you’re if interested in getting coached through any of this, I want you to reach out to me. Roguecollectivecoaching.com we’ll put you in a group, let you grow with some other folks. If you see this and you want this for your team at your work, reach out to me again. We do half day workshops. We also do coaching with this, but would love to help you feel really, really confident that you can answer this question and actually be equipped with the ability to step into really becoming. You’re born to be so thanks so much for that. Download this episode, watching it, share it with somebody. That would be helpful to you if you want some coaching. Rogue collectorcoaching.com if you just want to ask some questions, please email me daron@daronearlewine.com you can also text me 317-550-5070 would like to be part of the conversation with you. Thank you so much for downloading this episode of the podcast. And until we talk again, remember these three things. God’s for you, it’s not against you. He’s near you, he’s not far away. And he’s created you on purpose and for purpose. Thanks for downloading this episode of the Daron Earlewine Podcast.